Prince charming: real or imagined?

We’ve all done it, created a false mental image of him, a prince charming of sorts, ready to sweep us off our feet. You imagine him rushing home from work to cook you dinner whilst he tells you over and over again how beautiful you are. Or maybe it’s the fantasy where he gives up all his hobbies and free time because nothing is more fun than being with you! Why do we do this? Why can’t we just wait to find out who he is instead of making him who we want him to be, only to find out that the prince in our mind is just your every day toad and no amount of kissing will change him. Well, I think I’ve found a way around this…Try this

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Romance poll results are in.

Now, what do to about them…

The strength of silence

Inside I’m screaming at this 10 year old, defending myself. Assuring him that I don’t fight with his mom, that I don’t insult her or bother her or do anything but keep it neutral with her. That I never respond to her repeated accusations of things I would never think of doing. I can’t imagine what other lies she tells him about me, but I know she does her best to paint an ugly picture. She even told me if I want him to continue liking me I better do as she says. She used her own child to threaten me. But what can I do? I can’t address it. I can’t talk to him about it. It’s none of his business. At 10 years old he should not know any of this. I won’t stoop to her level, I won’t become like her. I won’t put him the middle. I will never speak ill of her to him. I will never be filled with the rage and jealousy that fills her. So I just have to take it. Not defend myself. I have to show him who I am by my actions and hope that when he’s an adult he’ll look back and realize I was the one. The one who never mentioned her to him except to ask how she’s doing or how his weekend with her was. The one who only treated him with kindness. The one who never made him feel like he had to choose. I have to quiet the part of me that wants to defend. I have to know who I am and trust that it shows. I realize that a 10 year old will believe whatever his mom tells him. But I have faith that years later, when he’s able to think for himself and have the vision of reality, when he knows right from wrong, he’ll see me for who I am. When he’s grown and realizes his mom is still telling lies, I wonder what he’ll think of her. I wonder if she’ll regret the years she spent poisoning him. Probably not. She’s her own biggest believer.

He’s not a girlfriend…

so why expect him to act like one? Here’s a quick-tip to help prevent you from being repeatedly disappointed.

Hey, you control freaks out there…

How to let go of some of that control …

Healthy, here I come…

I’m not sure if it has to do with the sudden rash of deaths in the media. After all, I’ve been working with “death” for the past 10 years, so I’ve always been aware of my mortality. Whatever the reason, it’s about time I got back to being healthy, starting with retiring my love of soda. Goodbye, my dear friend. Coffee, on the other hand…Yes, I’ll keep the 1-2 cups a day of coffee. I’m sure I’ve read somewhere about the health benefits of java. But the soda has got to go. In it’s place I’ll be drinking water. I need to be hydrated more than ever out here in California. My hair loves the lack of humidity, but my skin hates it. I’m also going to make a point to start swimming more. I need to get that collateral circulation going!

So that’s it, starting today, I’m bettering my body and mind. Just like that!

For the cheater in your life

Here’s a quick tip for all the cheaters out there…

Rage or calmness? You decide

See my newest article for strategies on changing the way deal with conflict.

The romance poll

Hey ladies, visit my site and take the romance poll. I’ll leave it open for a week and then discuss the results and what we can do about them!